Thinking about what compassion is:
"Compassion is the feeling of empathy for others. Compassion is the emotion that we feel in response to the suffering of others that motivates a desire to help."
I had never really known what its true meaning was even though it was written as a dictionary definition all along. I have always thought of compassion as another world for love. Well sure love is there, but even love is only a surface kind of happy, more instinctual.
I also noticed what i thought to be Thupten's ego but it is highly likely that it was my own. I asked him a few questions with not much aim, not much focus and with i think quite a lot of ego on my mind. And in return this is what i got. I was nervous asking these question, i can't even remember what they were now, and i saw him become nervous by going to mandala beads. Now i feel regret. Regret, not guilt. I should be more humble.
Out door class room
Chopping down young willow whip trees gave me an out put of energy for what i had learned in compassion training. I was happy to be with my Dad, Allan and Wilf (the dog), i was thinking about where the trees would be planted, i didn't know the location yet, but having helped out with a previous outdoor classroom of Dad's, i knew it would be thoroughly enjoyed by children to come. I also know that willow is a native tree, so it is healthy for the environment to plant more. Also, that it would be a living willow structure makes me very happy as it will grow and change.
Being out of doors also allowed me to think, in a sense it was meditative.
Business Gateway Course with Yvonne Bostock
I went, not with a business plan in mind, but only a want to learn the language of business. I noticed how at ease Yvonne made everyone feel as they came into the room. She introduced herself and asked everyones names, shaking their hands and looking into their eyes. She asked what each of us were interested in. Mum being mum, she also asked what Yvonne's interests were. There were earns of tea, coffee and hot water with a selection of herbal tea bags and plates of biscuits. The tables were all set out very neatly, in a circle. Jugs of water and 'wine' glasses to drink from. We were given worksheets, everyone was kept on the same page, well planned.
The highlight of the course fro me was to learn so negotiation skills. Very basically from what i can remember:
- Ask open ended questions to begin with
- Then ask closing more definite questions
- Then repeat back what you have learned to equal yourself with who you are talking to and clarify to yourself
- then finalise the deal, make arrangements for postage, solution to become in place
It was very useful to learn these thing, however, the thing that i have remembered most of all was to accommodate not compromise. Accommodate = both parties win (win win ) Compromise = both parties loose (no progression, taken 2 steps back).
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